Stalker Information

• Jealousy
• Obsessive/compulsive
• Tendency to "instantly" fall in love
• Manipulative
• Does not accept responsibility for own actions
• Needs to have control over others
• Socially awkward or uncomfortable
• Views self as a victim of society, family, and others
• Unable to take "no" for an answer
• Deceptive
• Often switches between behaviors of rage and own version of love
• Difficulty distinguishing between fantasy and reality
• Sense of entitlement ("you owe me")
• Unable to cope with rejection
• Dependent on others for sense of self
• Views own problems as someone else's fault
• May be of above-average intelligence

 — excerpted from Stalking: A Handbook for Victims by Emily Spence-Diehl

Common Stalking Behaviors

• Mailing or delivering cards or other cryptic messages to victim
• Presenting or leaving other objects such as flowers or mementos on victim's doorstep or at victim's workplace
• Breaking windows, breaking into or vandalizing victim's home or vehicle
• Vandalizing other property belonging to victim; destroying property to scare or intimidate victim
• Stealing from victim
• Transferring, intercepting, or taking victim's mail
• Watching victim from a distance; surveillance of victim's home or workplace
• Following victim on foot or in vehicle
• Hang up telephone calls
• Harassing telephone calls, notes, faxes, emails, or text messages
• Filing numerous pleadings in court cases
• Filing for custody of the children regardless of their needs
• Not respecting visitation limitations
• Not respecting other personal/privacy boundaries established by victim
• Violation of protective orders
• Willful and repeated violations of other court orders
• Attempts to financially control victim
• Obtaining victim's credit card and other financial information (credit card theft, fraud)
• Identity theft of victim
• Assault and/or battery on victim